New year – new possibilities

The relief of leaving a year behind has never felt so liberating. 2020 was nothing but a huge challenge for everyone. For some more than others, but we have all been affected in one way or the other and we have all felt the fear.

A new year always feels like a promise, of a fresh new beginning, or of turning a leaf. Usually this includes making promises to yourself. Promises that are based on a hope to fix this, or to correct that. But there are no easy ways to fix life. The popular "ten easy steps" to reach your desired goal, aren't sustainable in the long run. We often start eagerly enough, but all too often the novelty fizzles out after a while, and we are back to our comfort zone.

Real change begins with awareness. But oftentimes it can be really hard to see a way out, or to find the right solutions. I find myself thinking about a statue I once saw that affected me strongly. The statue depicted a rounded stone with a huge crack in the middle. Standing in the crack facing the side of the wall was a tiny figure. A person fixed to the spot with its nose touching the wall, so it couldn't see the opening. I recognised myself. How many years did I spend grinding my nose to the wall, not seeing a way out? Of not seeing the possibilities and choices I could make? Of feeling like a victim of my reality, instead of the creator of my future. Of not knowing I could turn my head so that I could see the way out.

There are always possibilities in every situation. Having eventually turned my head and seen the light and found the way out of a difficult life situation, has made me resilient and resourceful. It has helped me find not only a way out but also a way into my own core. I now stand firm and fixed just like the small figure, but now in myself. It wasn't ten-easy-ways-fix. It took years of reading, journaling, soul searching and opening up to new ideas. But the most amazing part was that I not only found myself, I also lost my fear forever. I started to embrace, create and enjoy my life. 

Looking back at 2020 I see a year of many losses and missed opportunities, but also of new possibilities. I'm grateful of the new friends I made with people all over the world through my first ever online summit, the Healing Spaces Series – 21 Ways of Loving Yourself to Inner Strength. I would never have met the amazing speakers if the covid-19 pandemic had never been. Isolated thought I was, I found meaningful connection though the internet and I learnt so much through meeting them.

What is your vision for your life 2021? What is your Why or purpose for attaining the vision? What are your sub-goals for the vision?